Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. – George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
Perhaps it’s about both.
What I do notice, however, is that viewing myself as being lost, broken or deficient does create limits on the choices I present to myself. And the admonition to "find yourself" does imply that you must be lost.
On the other hand, the exciting advice to view life and yourself as an open-ended creation-in-the-works speaks to personal empowerment and creativity and fun.
. . . I think I’ll go with George.
Joseph Fedorowsky / Personal Empowerment